Friday, April 8, 2011

MOM

mom maybe just 3 words but its mean a lot in my life.
Mama saya bernama Rita Purnama Dewi, beliau lahir di Bandung 39 tahun yang lalu pada tanggal 05 Oktober 1971. Mama saya biasa dipanggil Dea, beliau suka bernyanyi beliau suka warna hijau, addicted sekali, beliau rela giving up everything for me :)
mama mungkin mama sering nganggep aku cuek, mungkin emang adanya aku gitu, tp deep down my heart i always worry about you, i'm scared when you sick, i'm scared to picture how would i live without you, but you know i never show every sensitive side of me to you, itsnot beacuse i dont care, but i care too much and im so scared so i pretend that im strong, cause i know you're weak you always worry about everything, so iwant to be strong daughter for you, who keep you stronger. Aku gag akan jadi anak yang kalo mama lagi nangis, aku bakalan ikutan nangis, aku gamau, aku bakalan jadi orang yang ngeledek mama gara2x mama nangis tujuan aku cuman buat mama ketawa, biar mama lupa sama masalah mama. Aku inget dulu mama sering sakit2xan dan aku cuek, aku minta maaf, aku akan berusaha untuk lebih peka ke mama, aku dulu setiap berantem sama mama gag pernah minta maaf, semakin dewasa aku sadar aku harus bisa ngalah, karena bagaimanapun orang tua, setidak sempurnanya orang tua, mereka tetap orang tua kamu, beliau tetap IBU kalian, ibu yang melahirkan, ibu yang membesarkan.

Mama saya orang supel dan pandai bergaul, beliau orang yang sangat pemberani, beliau tipe ibu yang bisa -dibilang jika dilihat dari luar sangat digemari oleh anak-anak lain, tapi sebenernya mama saya jika itu berhadapan dengan saya beliau berubah menjadi sosok yang bisa dibilang overprotective mungkin lebih-lebih dari overprotective jadi saya sering berontak karena hal itu.

Mama saya seorang sosok yang saya idolakan, dia berani mengambil resiko, sedangkan saya, saya selalu menjadi orang yang takut akan konsekuensi-konsekuensi yang akan datang, saya penakut
Mama saya ketika berbicara dengan orang-orang bisa dibilang gaul, "gue-elo" bisa dibilang bahasa sehari2xnya dengan teman2xnya, tapi jika itu berkaitan dengan saya, beliau selalu memakai bahasa-bahasa kasih, sayang, neng, dan lainnya.

Mama saya tipe orang tua yang 'worry-an' overe worry i guess, dia selalau berlebihan dalam menanggapi sesuatu, dan kadang saya kesal sekali dengan sifatnya yang seperti ini. namun saya selalu memberikan nasihat2x kecil untuk bisa menenangkannya hahaha jadi kebalik yah . but so what itu mama saya 
Mama tipe orang ketika jamannya sangat bebas, tp jika menyangkut saya kembali tidak ada kata bebas dihati maupun pikirannya mungkin diucapannya beliau bisa berbicara kebebasan.
ini bakalan banyak banget kalo disebutin semuanya hahha intinya
I LOVE MY MOTHER no matter what!
saya sangat sedih ketika saya sakit saya harus berbohong kepada mama bahwa saya baik-baik saja, saya berbohong karena saya tidak mau membuat dia sedih, dia khawatir, mungkin saya jarang menghubungi mama, bhukan karena tidak mau, tapi saya takut akhirnya malah berantem, dan saya tidak mau melukai hati mama saya
mama, neng sayang mama, mama bukan superhero mama bukan artis mama bukan artis ltapi aku bangga sama mama, mama gapernah tau seberapa sering aku cerita ke temen2x tentang mama, mungkin kadang hal yang nyebelin cuman banyak juga hal2x yang aku ceritain ketemen aku ttg mama, itu karena aku selalau bangga sama mama, jangan pernah bilang aku lebih sayang ayah dari mama, karena sayang aku selalu sama buat kalian. i love you mom :)

ini mama saya :)

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

androgyny

im in love with andreaj pejic his beauty and his great appreciation in modeling world, and i just know that he's an androgyny, so now i will talk about androgyny.
Androgyny is a term—derived from the Greek words άνδρoς (andros, meaning man) and γυνή (gyné, meaning woman)—referring to the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics. This may be as in fashion, sexual identity, or sexual lifestyle, or it may refer to biologically inter-sexed physicality, especially with regards to plant and human sexuality.

Gender identity

For humans, an androgyne (pronounced /ˈændrədʒaɪn/, AN-drə-JYNE) in terms of gender identity, is a person who does not fit cleanly into the typical masculine and feminine gender roles of their society. They may also use the term ambigender to describe themselves. Many androgynes identify as being mentally "between" woman and man, or as entirely genderless. They may identify as non-gendered, genderneutral, agendered, between genders, intergendered, pangender or gender fluid.[citation needed]The Bem Sex Role Inventory
The Bem Sex Role Inventory is one of the most widely used gender measures and was constructed by the early leading proponent of androgyny, Sandra Bem (1977).[2] Based on their responses to the items in the Bem Sex-Role Inventory, individuals are classified as having one of four gender-role orientations: masculine, feminine, androgynous, or undifferentiated.
The androgynous individual is simply a female or male who has a high degree of both feminine (expressive) and masculine (instrumental) traits. A feminine individual is high on feminine (expressive) traits and low on masculine (instrumental) traits. A masculine individual is high on instrumental traits and low on expressive traits. An undifferentiated person is low on both feminine and masculine traits

Gender roles

According to Sandra Bem, androgynous men and women are more flexible and more mentally healthy than either masculine or feminine individuals; undifferentiated individuals are less competent.[2] To some degree though, context influences which gender role is most adaptive. In close relationships, a feminine or androgynous gender role may be more desirable because of the expressive nature of close relationships. However, a masculine or androgynous gender role may be more desirable in academic and work settings because of their demands for action and assertiveness.
One study found that masculine and androgynous individuals had higher expectations for being able to control the outcomes of their academic efforts than feminine or undifferentiated individuals

Traits

Medieval representation of an androgynous person from Nuremberg Chronicle
Androgynous traits are those that either have no gender value, or have some aspects generally attributed to the opposite gender. Physiological androgyny (compare intersex), which deals with physical traits, is distinct from behavioral androgyny which deals with personal and social anomalies in gender, and from psychological androgyny, which is a matter of gender identity.[citation needed]
To say that a culture or relationship is androgynous is to say that it lacks rigid gender roles and that the people involved display characteristics or partake in activities traditionally associated with the other gender. The term androgynous is often used to refer to a person whose look or build make determining their gender difficult but is generally not used as a synonym for actual intersexuality, transgender or two-spirit people. Occasionally, people who do not actually define themselves as androgynes adapt their physical appearance to look androgynous. This outward androgyny has been used as a fashion statement, and some of the milder forms (women wearing men's trousers/men wearing skirts, for example) are not perceived as transgendered behavior.
Lesbians who do not define themselves as butch or femme may identify with various other labels including androgynous or andro for short. A few other examples include lipstick lesbian, tomboy, and 'tom suay' which is Thai for 'beautiful butch'. Some lesbians reject gender performativity labels altogether and resent their imposition by others. Note that androgynous and butch are often considered equivalent definitions, though less so in the butch/femme scene.
The recently coined word genderqueer is often used to refer to androgynes, but the terms genderqueer and androgyne (or androgynous) are neither equivalent nor interchangeable. Genderqueer is not specific to androgynes, does not denote gender identity, and may refer to any person, cisgender or transgender, whose behavior falls outside conventional gender norms. Furthermore, genderqueer, by virtue of its linkage with queer culture, carries sociopolitical connotations that androgyne does not carry. For these reasons, some androgynes may find the label genderqueer inaccurate, inapplicable, or offensive.
An androgyne may be attracted to people of any sex or gender, though many identify as pansexual or asexual. Terms such as bisexual, heterosexual, and homosexual have less meaning for androgynes who do not identify as men or women to begin with. Infrequently the words gynephilia and androphilia are used, which refer to the gender of the person someone is attracted to, and do not imply any particular gender on the part of the person who is feeling the attraction.

Alternatives

An alternative to androgyny is gender-role transcendence, the view that when an individual's competence is at issue, it should be conceptualized on a personal basis rather than on the basis of masculinity, femininity, or androgyny.[4]
In agenderism the division of people into women and men, in the psychical sense, is erroneous and artificial.[5] It negates the biological sex (or lack thereof) as a carrier of specific features and tendencies of personality, and as a yardstick to determine human inside "I" (Ego).[6] In the category of transgenderism (literally, being "beyond gender identity") a person like agender can be included in a sense which rejects functioning under of any psycho-cultural gender.[7]

Contemporary trends

The rise of androgyny in popular culture has also been on the increase in the 21st century and beyond,[8] with an increasing rise in both fashion industries,[9] as well as pop culture for acceptance and even popularity of the "androgynous" look, with several trends set by current pop stars like Bill Kaulitz, being hailed as creative trendsetters.
The rise of the metrosexual in the 2000s has also been described as a related phenomena associated with this trend, and traditional gender stereotypes have been challenged as well as reset in recent years dating back to the 1960s and the hippie movement and flower power. Artists in film like Leonardo DiCaprio sported the "skinny" look in the 1990s- a departure from traditional masculinity which resulted in a fad known as "Leo Mania",[10] and this came long after musical superstars like David Bowie, Boy George, Grace Jones, Prince, Marilyn Manson (appearing as an androgynous substance-addicted alien called Omēga in his album Mechanical Animals) and Annie Lennox as well as Michael Jackson challenged the norms in the 1970s and had elaborate cross gender wardrobes by the 1980s. The astronomical rise in popularity of "pretty" boybands in the late 1980s and 1990s like New Kids on the Block, Take That, the Backstreet Boys and 'N Sync "redefined masculinity"[11] and the trends flowed into other performance entertainment circles that included increasingly, sports stars in England's FA Premier League like David Beckham[12] or the Liverpool F.C Spice Boys[13] in the 1990s. These entertainers were known to have started trends of becoming increasingly conscious of their fashion and looks, and inadvertently raised trends as celebrities in the limelight that males were now increasingly interested in traditional female interests like clothing, fashion accessories, hairstyles, manicures, spa treatments and so on, which have seen the societal redefinition of traditional gender fashion norms, due to the popularity of these artistes with many people in the world today. These trends have arguably then gone on to reshape fashion, and clothing houses like Top Man, and designer labels have then seen an increase in sales in relevant "androgynous" merchandise.[14][15]
While the 1990s developed and fashion developed an affinity for unisex clothes and the rise of designers who favoured that look like Helmut Lang, Giorgio Armani and Pierre Cardin, the trends in fashion only hit the public mainstream in the 2000s, which saw men sporting longer hair, hairdyes, hair highlights, wearing jewellery, make up, visual kei, designer stubble, or the like, all of which been a significant mainstream trend of the 21st century, both in the western world, and in Asia.[16] Japanese and Korean cultures have been featuring the androgynous look as an ideal in society, as depicted in both K-pop, J-pop[17] and in Anime and Manga,[18] as well as the fashion industry[19] However, in 2010, reports state that the androgynous look in Europe and the West may be a trend on the decline
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Andrej Pejic







with david chiang

 isnt he great ? and he's been asked bye victoria's secret aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
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